Everybody’s different.

Cancer impacts on everybody in different ways

We hear that sentence every time we go to the doctor. It’s the answer to most questions I ask.

What are the most frequent side effects of this treatment?    Everybody’s different.

Can’t you tell me how long most people stay on this treatment?   Everybody’s different.

Which treatments work best?   Everybody’s different.

If someone enters the same limbo world as me, how long do they stay there?   Everybody’s different.  

How long do most people live?      Everybody’s different.

I do understand that EVERYBODY’S different, but aren’t there some generalities? Similarities? Most-often case scenarios?  Seriously, how hard would it be to provide some guidelines or ideas of what I can expect?

Maybe other patients don’t keep asking these questions. Maybe I’m seeking answers to questions no one can answer. Maybe I’m driving doctors crazy asking for answers they don’t know.  

I know people have different needs for knowledge about their disease and treatment so……I guess that’s just another example of how everybody’s different.  ARG!

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This is my blog about living my life with Stage 4 Pancreatic Cancer—End stage. I joked about writing this imaginary blog when I spent a year on a treatment that allowed me only 10 days to feel well enough to live a fairly normal life. (Actually normal doesn’t even really exist for me anymore!) To earn those good days, I spent the previous 10 days living in post-chemo treatment physical hell – that also became normal in a perverse way. I’m also writing to honor those who are diagnosed with Stage Four Pancreatic Cancer. You might live longer than you expect and I want you to have someone who tells you what that’s like. There aren’t many role models for people with this because, well, they’re usually gone. So, this is for you. Maybe your journey will be similar to mine. Actually, it will probably be very different because “everyone is different.” Even still, maybe this will still be a bit of a guide.

2 thoughts on “Everybody’s different.”

  1. Kathy I think of you so often and keep coming back to the day we ran into each other at Froedert. Felt empty not knowing what to say. Yet on one hand knowing it’s kind of what people feel when they see Kevin and I . This post really touched me cause I to wanted answers too not “everyone’s different”. But now have found we are blessed in our own journeys good and bad. We too believe in the power of pray so know you are in my prays for a blessed journey. Hugs to you Kathy

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