The Good Life

Cancer is the lemon in life ~ ~ you create the lemonade

As crazy as it sounds, there have been some good things, some benefits for my life that have appeared because I have cancer. I’ve been thinking about them lately and decided to share.

-I’m usually invited to the party. I feel very included in the social world and that’s a wonderful feeling.

-I get lots of “I love you’s”. People I care about have realized the importance of telling me that they care.  And I feel the same and share too. Such a simple thing, but it takes an impending loss for all of us to realize letting people know you love them is too often overlooked.

-I’m allowed to fart!  Pancreatic cancer is a digestive disorder so there are all sorts of indelicate body reactions. This disease is not for the faint of bowel sounds. So, I can go for a walk with my husband and toot merrily along, sometimes with the sounds of a marching band following us for the whole block. Such a relief it is!

-I can take naps!  It’s a sweet afternoon ~ with a siesta!

-I have slowed down enough to actually smell the flowers in my garden. Since I can’t promise my ability to follow through on commitments that evolve over time, I have avoided all kinds of committee work that would have sent me back to living in the fast lane. I loved being busy, but I have learned the joys of slow.

-I prioritize taking care of myself. To quote a friend with whom I explored life after retirement: my job now is taking care of my health. So massages, yoga, afternoon walks come before errands and chores.

-I don’t have to diet; gaining or maintaining weight is the plan now. Yes, I try to stick to my clean food diet, but hey ~ what’s the point of denying myself those simple pleasures of treats?

-A few people actually cheer when I walk into Zumba.  

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This is my blog about living my life with Stage 4 Pancreatic Cancer—End stage. I joked about writing this imaginary blog when I spent a year on a treatment that allowed me only 10 days to feel well enough to live a fairly normal life. (Actually normal doesn’t even really exist for me anymore!) To earn those good days, I spent the previous 10 days living in post-chemo treatment physical hell – that also became normal in a perverse way. I’m also writing to honor those who are diagnosed with Stage Four Pancreatic Cancer. You might live longer than you expect and I want you to have someone who tells you what that’s like. There aren’t many role models for people with this because, well, they’re usually gone. So, this is for you. Maybe your journey will be similar to mine. Actually, it will probably be very different because “everyone is different.” Even still, maybe this will still be a bit of a guide.

One thought on “The Good Life”

  1. Sweet! Such a nice blog post Kathy. Love the way you say it like it is. I can always hear you speaking the words as I read your posts. Cheers to you, and cheers to slowing down and taking it all in! Including the beautiful snow falls that you have been getting! So pretty!

    Sending love and hugs!

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