I know someone…..

Stories of Cancer Survival

Whenever something happens in someone’s life, people have stories about someone they know who had a similar experience. 

Mostly that’s a good thing. 

It does normalize every situation when you hear so many people have experienced the same thing. It’s amazing to me how many people know someone who has had pancreatic cancer.  

Sometimes it’s their sister’s husband’s best friend’s uncle’s son. But, many times it was a parent, friend or someone they loved dearly. These are the tougher stories to hear. Sometimes people can’t actually tell their story because it’s just still too painful.

When I first became ill, I heard numerous stories of remarkable survival. Since most people don’t really know a person’s journey and are confused about pancreatic cancer stage 4, sometimes the stories didn’t seem that accurate or believable. That’s when the stories became hard to hear. 

Now that I have survived longer than any of us suspected possible, the stories have shifted to people who didn’t survive very long. The shift seems strange to me and these stories can be hard to hear too. Loss is so sad.

I never know if a story is going to helpful or haunting, so I listen to each story. I never want people to stop telling me their stories, I just need to be very prepared for what I’m about to hear.

I also realized that since it’s so unusual to survive so long, I may have become the main character in the stories people tell of someone they know who has survived. I hope I can keep this up to help with the stories. Also, I hope I provide an encouraging story for someone dealing with pancreatic cancer.

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This is my blog about living my life with Stage 4 Pancreatic Cancer—End stage. I joked about writing this imaginary blog when I spent a year on a treatment that allowed me only 10 days to feel well enough to live a fairly normal life. (Actually normal doesn’t even really exist for me anymore!) To earn those good days, I spent the previous 10 days living in post-chemo treatment physical hell – that also became normal in a perverse way. I’m also writing to honor those who are diagnosed with Stage Four Pancreatic Cancer. You might live longer than you expect and I want you to have someone who tells you what that’s like. There aren’t many role models for people with this because, well, they’re usually gone. So, this is for you. Maybe your journey will be similar to mine. Actually, it will probably be very different because “everyone is different.” Even still, maybe this will still be a bit of a guide.

One thought on “I know someone…..”

  1. I enjoy reading your blog so much. You are a trail blazer of bravery, encouragement and love. I have always told my family stories about my life and theirs as they were growing up. It not only created laughs but provided them with warm feelings about who they are. Never stop the the story telling.

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